Big news from Overboard Ministries! Friend, pastor and now author Barry Bandara has just released his first book with Overboard Ministries. Dream House is a fantastic book about family and marriage. Barry uses the analogy of a room-by-room house tour as a backdrop and guide for the reader to engage with the ideas of his book. Below is an excerpt from his book. Dream House has just been released by Overboard Ministries, and you can pick up your HERE.
From Dream House, chapter 1:
My wife and girls love to watch the home shows that have recently flooded the cable airwaves. There are shows that help first-time buyers purchase their first home, shows that remodel on the cheap, and shows that flip houses. The ones that get me are those where neighbors compete against each other to see who can get the best return on their investment after spending $90,000 to remodel their bathroom! Are you kidding me? Since I love seeing what people can do with their homes using their own money, I can vicariously experience their home shopping and remodeling without spending a dime.
Regardless of the budget or the remodeling style, though, one principle comes up time and again in these home shows – the kitchen makes or breaks the home. Why? It is the heart of the home, the place where family life happens. Remove the kitchen and all you have is a glorified motel room. It doesn’t matter how cool I think the man cave is – if my wife doesn’t like the kitchen, the sale won’t go down!
The kitchen is often conveniently located in the center of the home because it is at the crossroads of everyone’s daily routine. Family members are coming and going, talking, cooking, and eating together. This also is why the kitchen is often the most cluttered room in the home. It never gets a break!
Along with being Grand Central Station in most homes, the kitchen is also the primary source for nourishment in every healthy home. Physically speaking, it’s where the food is stored, prepared, and served. When we can’t sleep at night, where do we go? We wander out to the kitchen to find something to eat. When the kids come home from a long day at school, what do they do? They drop their backpacks by the door with a floor-shaking thud and immediately head to the kitchen. They open the refrigerator and cabinet doors, ready to inhale anything they can find. (Is it just me, or do your kids stand there with the fridge door open for an eternity?) The kitchen grows gradually colder as they peer into a refrigerator packed from top to bottom with groceries and whine, “How come there’s nothing to eat?”
Although I never took a home economics class, I’m at least aware of the five basic food groups:
1. Bread and cereals that provide us with carbohydrates and fiber
2. Fruits and vegetables that give us vitamins and minerals
3. Milk and dairy that supply our bodies with calcium
4. Meat, fish and beans that give us protein
5. Fat and sugar that add flavor to our diet
Although every home includes a kitchen, many homes are not providing the proper nourishment for their family. Cupboards are filled with sugar, fats, salt, and everybody’s favorite box of sugary toasted goodness – Pop-Tarts! Between the greasy bags of chips at home and the routine meals of drive-through fast food, it’s no wonder our country is facing an obesity crisis.
Beyond food groups, calories and fat intake, what builds a healthy, well-nourished home? Well, let’s take a closer look at the word nourishment, which of course comes from the word nourish. (Have I lost anyone yet?) This word has a two-fold definition: “to promote growth; to sustain with nutrients.” A healthy home is one that consistently provides the necessary ingredients to promote physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual growth to all who live under its roof. With a home like this, a family will be sustained for many years to come.
Unpacking this word further, the English word nourish comes from the Latin nutrire, which means literally “to feed.” Over time, however, as the word passed through the Middle English norisshe into the form we use today, it picked up the additional meanings of sustaining life in other ways than the physical – strengthening, building up, and cultivating the mind and soul as well as the body. This expanded definition helps us to move beyond food and in the direction of what makes a house into a healthy home with the proper nourishment.
Barry is certainly trying to live out his God-designed life outside the comfort of the boat and out on the water where Jesus is building His Kingdom. Buy and read Dream House so that you too can embrace family and marriage the way God intended, by design.
Go ahead and take the plunge -- life is better on the water!