Blame is kind of like a drink that tastes good initially, but leaves an awful aftertaste in your mouth. Blame is easy and even causes me to feel better for a little while, but then it leaves me with the awful taste of bitterness and bondage.
I faced a challenge recently in which another person was at fault in many ways. It was easy, natural, and even justified to blame my hurt on this individual. However, this blame left me feeling more hurt and bitter rather than free from the situation.
This is where "ultimate responsibility" comes in. I must find all the ways and all the places where I am responsible - where I had, and made, a choice. There are some big ones. Once I speak the words, "I chose to . . . " then I begin to experience freedom and I can begin to move past the place of hurt where I so easily get stuck.
It is amazing what pressure is released and what freedom is experienced, when we begin to own our actions and our decisions.
There is another layer of ownership. We say a phrase in our house all the time (my kids could quote it for you!): My response is my responsibility. Sometimes I don't choose what happens - I didn't make the actions, decisions, or cause the events - but I still must live with the consequences. This is where I do have a choice. This is where my response to life is totally up to me - my responsibility.
Taxes are a part of life for most people. We don't get much of a choice as to whether we will be charged tax or need to file taxes each spring, but we can choose our response and our perspective on paying taxes. Check out this video that illustrates how we can choose our perspective on something as mundane as taxes:
What unpleasant circumstances, events, or situations are coming your way? What is your response? Are you busy blaming people, circumstances, or the government? Or are you choosing to see the joy, blessing, or growth opportunity in your situation?
We all have a choice. We can blame, resulting in bitterness and bondage or we can take responsibility, resulting in an extraordinary life of freedom and growth.
The choice is up to you!