I have been a little silent on the blogging front for the past few weeks. This is the first week without any new posts (I usually post twice each week), but it has been a few weeks since I have written something new. I was so proud of myself for having several weeks worth in the queue, but those disappeared quickly.
So, why the silence?
These past few weeks have been a mix of wonderful and difficult. It truly has been extremely wonderful and extremely difficult, a pendulum swing from one to the other, from one day to the next and sometimes from one hour to the next.
Some of the wonderful was my kids being on Christmas vacation. We played games, watched movies, baked goodies, delivered gifts, and opened gifts. Joe and I surprised the kids with some bigger gifts that they "really wanted' and it was so fun to anticipate and then deliver those gifts. (I love giving gifts!!)
Joe and I also celebrated 18 years of marriage. We had a fun and relaxing get-away. We connected on a lot of levels, laughed a lot, and enjoyed some gift cards we were given for Christmas. I am so blessed! Joe wrote a great "18 Years of Marriage" blog. Read it HERE.
And then there was the not-so-fun side of life. (Sorry, there will be no juicy details here.) Yet, even in navigating this challenge, I have learned some valuable lessons about myself and how to approach difficult situations and/or people.
Here are a few of the lessons I learned and am still learning:
Emotions are Healthy
The feelings we experience are real feelings that are not to be supressed, but are to be felt. I have felt the full range of emotions - joy, anger, frustration, compassion, hurt, pain, hope - in the past few weeks. I can choose to ignore these feelings, but that does not make the difficult situation or emotions go away. Or I can choose to not feel positive emotions because, "How can I feel happy when I'm facing a difficult circumstance?" but that isn't healthy either.
Positive emotions breed more positive emotions and the same is true of negative emotions. When I am in the midst of a difficulty I have the opportunity to spread my positive or negative emotions to others. The things I feel are powerful and can impact the thoughts and actions of others. I have asked myself, "What do I want to create for myself and others as a results of this situation?"
Remember the Big Picture
I can think of one specific time a week ago where it would have served me and those around me to remember the big picture. In the heat of hard times it can be challenging to get back to a bird's eye view and to remember the ultimate goal. The goal of most conflict ought to be resolution, but too often I just want to get my point across and ultimately to be right! Anyone else ever feel the need to be right?
In conclusion, here are a few questions to ask yourself:
* Whether you are in the midst of a struggle or not, are your emotions in check?
* Are you allowing yourself to experience your feelings in a proper context?
* Are you compounding positive or negative thoughts and feelings?
* What is the big picture of your current situation?
* How can you contribute to a positive outcome?
In the highs and lows we always have the opportunity to . . .
(I’m Traci, the "Be Extraordinary!" blogger. I share insights that challenge and encourage moms to be the best version of themselves. To me, that’s an extraordinary life! Click HERE to receive blog updates and a free newsletter.)